Yesterday Michelle posted on The Misdiagnosed Miscarriage site about her misdiagnosed miscarriage. Her doctor had been trying to convince her to end her pregnancy for weeks before she pulled out her trump card. She told her the pregnancy was likely molar and she needed to end it now. Michelle refused, got a second opinion, and saw her baby with a strong heartbeat.
If you'd like to read Michelle's story, here is the link:
Chelle31 - Diagnosed Molar, Told to Have D&C - MISDIAGNOSED!
So, you've been diagnosed with a molar or ectopic pregnancy, what do you do? Both these types of pregnancies can have very serious consequences including death. You have to take this sort of diagnosis seriously but you also want to know that is correct, right?
And, so, I wonder if *some* doctors pull the ectopic or molar card because they have made up their minds and are likely slighted bugged that you aren't in total agreement.
But, on the other hand, ectopic and molar pregnancies are fairly common.
What is a mom to do?
My doctor did try to convince me, strongly convince me for two weeks to have a D&C with my daughter. Thank goodness I knew two people who had serious complications from D&C and could no longer conceive. I declined.
Let me pause a moment to say that while I turned down the D&C, D&Cs do have their place. If there is an emergency or you are more than 10 weeks along, a D&C may well be needed and your best hope. For me, though, I was fine. There were no complications and I was still less than 10 weeks. For more on my story: When a Blighted Ovum is Not a Blighted Ovum
To give my doctor credit, I don't think he was trying to scare me because he was tired of seeing me and wanted to move on. He was a newer doctor who had just come out of med school and honestly believed the textbooks on blighted ova were correct (they're not).
However, I've talked to more women than I can count over the years who have shared how rude some physicians have gotten when they've questioned the diagnosis. With everything still looking normal, they've been told they need surgery immediately. I have no doubt many women end up having the surgery. I hear from the ones who do not and some have found their babies.
I once asked a doctor why other doctors are so quick to push the D&C or medicated miscarriage. His response? Because doctors really do believe they are correct and they don't want to be called in the middle of the night to meet you in the ER or answer questions about your pregnancy.
Because an ectopic or molar pregnancy can have serious complications, just waiting it out may not be an option. Your best bet is to get a second opinion as soon as possible especially if you feel your doctor is overly pushy or rude. You may end up needing that surgery but I do believe a woman deserves to know with 100% certainty that her pregnancy is failed before having that surgery. Find a physician who will really listen to your concerns.
If you are going through a miscarriage scare right now, I don't know how this will end. Just stay monitored and get a second opinion if you think one is warranted.