Yesterday Michelle posted on The Misdiagnosed Miscarriage site about her misdiagnosed miscarriage. Her doctor had been trying to convince her to end her pregnancy for weeks before she pulled out her trump card. She told her the pregnancy was likely molar and she needed to end it now. Michelle refused, got a second opinion, and saw her baby with a strong heartbeat.
If you'd like to read Michelle's story, here is the link:
Chelle31 - Diagnosed Molar, Told to Have D&C - MISDIAGNOSED!
So, you've been diagnosed with a molar or ectopic pregnancy, what do you do? Both these types of pregnancies can have very serious consequences including death. You have to take this sort of diagnosis seriously but you also want to know that is correct, right?
And, so, I wonder if *some* doctors pull the ectopic or molar card because they have made up their minds and are likely slighted bugged that you aren't in total agreement.
But, on the other hand, ectopic and molar pregnancies are fairly common.
What is a mom to do?
My doctor did try to convince me, strongly convince me for two weeks to have a D&C with my daughter. Thank goodness I knew two people who had serious complications from D&C and could no longer conceive. I declined.
Let me pause a moment to say that while I turned down the D&C, D&Cs do have their place. If there is an emergency or you are more than 10 weeks along, a D&C may well be needed and your best hope. For me, though, I was fine. There were no complications and I was still less than 10 weeks. For more on my story: When a Blighted Ovum is Not a Blighted Ovum
To give my doctor credit, I don't think he was trying to scare me because he was tired of seeing me and wanted to move on. He was a newer doctor who had just come out of med school and honestly believed the textbooks on blighted ova were correct (they're not).
However, I've talked to more women than I can count over the years who have shared how rude some physicians have gotten when they've questioned the diagnosis. With everything still looking normal, they've been told they need surgery immediately. I have no doubt many women end up having the surgery. I hear from the ones who do not and some have found their babies.
I once asked a doctor why other doctors are so quick to push the D&C or medicated miscarriage. His response? Because doctors really do believe they are correct and they don't want to be called in the middle of the night to meet you in the ER or answer questions about your pregnancy.
Because an ectopic or molar pregnancy can have serious complications, just waiting it out may not be an option. Your best bet is to get a second opinion as soon as possible especially if you feel your doctor is overly pushy or rude. You may end up needing that surgery but I do believe a woman deserves to know with 100% certainty that her pregnancy is failed before having that surgery. Find a physician who will really listen to your concerns.
If you are going through a miscarriage scare right now, I don't know how this will end. Just stay monitored and get a second opinion if you think one is warranted.
Friday, May 29, 2015
Wednesday, May 20, 2015
Ten Years of Misdiagnosed Miscarriages
I realized recently that I began The Misdiagnosed Miscarriage in 2005. That was ten years ago!
I had actually shared my own misdiagnosed blighted ovum story a year or two before I started the site. Slowly messages started popping up. Women were wondering if they could have a misdiagnosed miscarriage as well. At that time, a Google search of 'misdiagnosed miscarriage' turned up absolutely nothing related to misdiagnosed miscarriages. That's right, nothing! I scoured the web for help. It certainly could not be found on pregnancy/miscarriage forums. General consensus was to get a D&C and move on.
With the advent of the site, I also was surprised by the backlash. Women were upset that I believed I was misdiagnosed. I was assured by many including one woman who ran a website for women going through miscarriages, that my story was a fluke and doctors would never ever EVER misdiagnose a miscarriage.
Ten years later, and Google results show tens of thousands of pages when you search for 'misdiagnosed miscarriage'. Our site has nearly 700 misdiagnosed miscarriage stories. In fact, there are probably more because women will discover they are misdiagnosed and with the sheer number of posts, their story never gets moved to the Misdiagnosed forum. Looking at my gmail account, I have probably received about 10,000 emails from women about the possibility of a misdiagnosed miscarriage. A number of those women have been misdiagnosed. I can do that Google search and find stories all over the web by women who were also misdiagnosed.
What a difference ten years makes!
And, your stories matter! Ten years ago, doctors were constantly telling women miscarriages are never misdiagnosed. Now, the UK has recognized this is a real problem and has changed their guidelines in diagnosing a miscarriage. If they stick to these guidelines, I'd guess they'll eliminate at least 90% of misdiagnosed miscarriage cases. I hope the United States and other countries are not far behind.
What can we conclude? Miscarriages can be and are misdiagnosed. Every story shared helps so many people and gets the word out there. Each of you sharing a story is making a difference and saving lives.
Thank you!
I had actually shared my own misdiagnosed blighted ovum story a year or two before I started the site. Slowly messages started popping up. Women were wondering if they could have a misdiagnosed miscarriage as well. At that time, a Google search of 'misdiagnosed miscarriage' turned up absolutely nothing related to misdiagnosed miscarriages. That's right, nothing! I scoured the web for help. It certainly could not be found on pregnancy/miscarriage forums. General consensus was to get a D&C and move on.
With the advent of the site, I also was surprised by the backlash. Women were upset that I believed I was misdiagnosed. I was assured by many including one woman who ran a website for women going through miscarriages, that my story was a fluke and doctors would never ever EVER misdiagnose a miscarriage.
Ten years later, and Google results show tens of thousands of pages when you search for 'misdiagnosed miscarriage'. Our site has nearly 700 misdiagnosed miscarriage stories. In fact, there are probably more because women will discover they are misdiagnosed and with the sheer number of posts, their story never gets moved to the Misdiagnosed forum. Looking at my gmail account, I have probably received about 10,000 emails from women about the possibility of a misdiagnosed miscarriage. A number of those women have been misdiagnosed. I can do that Google search and find stories all over the web by women who were also misdiagnosed.
What a difference ten years makes!
And, your stories matter! Ten years ago, doctors were constantly telling women miscarriages are never misdiagnosed. Now, the UK has recognized this is a real problem and has changed their guidelines in diagnosing a miscarriage. If they stick to these guidelines, I'd guess they'll eliminate at least 90% of misdiagnosed miscarriage cases. I hope the United States and other countries are not far behind.
What can we conclude? Miscarriages can be and are misdiagnosed. Every story shared helps so many people and gets the word out there. Each of you sharing a story is making a difference and saving lives.
Thank you!
Tuesday, May 19, 2015
Enlarged Yolk Sac? Might Not Be Enlarged After All
Ten years ago, Stacy posted on The Misdiagnosed Miscarriage. Her doctor had given her no hope due to an enlarged yolk sac and told her to expect a miscarriage. Her doctor was wrong. Stacy went on to have her baby boy and he was perfect in every way.
You can read her post here:
An Update About an Enlarged Sac
Since Stacy's posts, I have talked to so many women who have been given little to no hope because of an enlarged yolk sac. I will say up front that, yes, some have gone to miscarry but, then again, many women without an enlarged yolk sac have gone on to miscarry. I've talked to a number of women who continued their pregnancies and went on to have babies who were just fine.
Could the problem be that the tech is making an error with measurements? I believe that answer is a yes. Why do I believe that is a possibility? I've written a series of blog posts on the unreliability of ultrasound measurements:
Ultrasound Measurements in the First Trimester Are Not as Accurate As You Might Believe and Lead to Misdiagnosing Miscarriages!
And, Even More on the Unreliability of Ultrasound Measurements During the First Trimester
And, yesterday, Fletch3 shared her story of being given no hope with an enlarged yolk sac which got me thinking about all of this:
Fletch3's Story - There IS HOPE with a Large Yolk Sac
If studies are showing that ultrasound measurements can vary 8mm with different ultrasound techs, women with 'enlarged' yolk sacs need to take note. Could your tech be wrong? Absolutely. That 8mm sac might only be 5mm. On the other hand, could your yolk sac be enlarged? Sure but there are numerous stories from women who went on to have their babies.
Enlarged yolk sac? Don't give up hope just because your doctor has and, please, really think about the D&C you are being offered before you have it. If there are serious complications, then yes, that D&C may be needed but if it is just because of an 'enlarged' yolk sac, it may be time to find another doctor.
You can read her post here:
An Update About an Enlarged Sac
Since Stacy's posts, I have talked to so many women who have been given little to no hope because of an enlarged yolk sac. I will say up front that, yes, some have gone to miscarry but, then again, many women without an enlarged yolk sac have gone on to miscarry. I've talked to a number of women who continued their pregnancies and went on to have babies who were just fine.
Could the problem be that the tech is making an error with measurements? I believe that answer is a yes. Why do I believe that is a possibility? I've written a series of blog posts on the unreliability of ultrasound measurements:
Ultrasound Measurements in the First Trimester Are Not as Accurate As You Might Believe and Lead to Misdiagnosing Miscarriages!
And, Even More on the Unreliability of Ultrasound Measurements During the First Trimester
And, yesterday, Fletch3 shared her story of being given no hope with an enlarged yolk sac which got me thinking about all of this:
Fletch3's Story - There IS HOPE with a Large Yolk Sac
If studies are showing that ultrasound measurements can vary 8mm with different ultrasound techs, women with 'enlarged' yolk sacs need to take note. Could your tech be wrong? Absolutely. That 8mm sac might only be 5mm. On the other hand, could your yolk sac be enlarged? Sure but there are numerous stories from women who went on to have their babies.
Enlarged yolk sac? Don't give up hope just because your doctor has and, please, really think about the D&C you are being offered before you have it. If there are serious complications, then yes, that D&C may be needed but if it is just because of an 'enlarged' yolk sac, it may be time to find another doctor.
Saturday, April 4, 2015
Another Misdiagnosed Blighted Ovum Because Of High hCG Levels and No Baby Seen
I really do believe high hCG levels with no baby seen is the most common reason for a viable pregnancy ends up misdiagnosed as a miscarriage.
Today I'd like to share Korin's story. You can find the original post here:
Korin's Story - Diagnosed Blighted ovum 5wks 6days - UPDATE!! MISDIAGNOSED!
At about six weeks, Korin had an ultrasound. Because they saw an empty gestational sac, the midwife told her she believed it to be a blighted ovum and wanted to check her hCG levels.
Korin's hCG levels came back in the 20,000s which is perfectly normal but the midwife diagnosed a blighted ovum because there was nothing seen in the sac. Korin did not want a D&C and chose to wait.
Two weeks later, Korin saw the heart of her little one beating away.
I know I blog about this topic a lot but hCG numbers should NOT play a role in a blighted ovum diagnosis. I've talked to women who had numbers much higher who did not see their babies until later. The diagnosis of a blighted ovum should be based on the size of the gestational sac if the sac is growing. You'll want to see the sac grow to at least 25mm before a blighted ovum should even be suggested.
In fact, that reminds me of another recent story on the site. Rachel shared how her doctor felt her hCG numbers were too low and with no baby seen yet, she needed a D&C. Thankfully Rachel's husband demanded another ultrasound two hours before the procedure and, you guessed it, they found their baby. You can read her story here:
Rachel's Story - My Ob/Gyn Almost Murdered My Son
This is why I strongly believe a blighted ovum should NOT be even suggested before the gestational sac reaches at least 25mm. Had that doctor just said, "It's still too early, come back in a couple weeks," Rachel would not have been so upset. In fact, with my first pregnancy, most doctors would have likely suggested a blighted ovum like they did with my second pregnancy. When they couldn't see my baby, the just said that it was too early and to come back in a couple weeks. I was probably between eight to nine weeks when they found him. Because of how they approached it, I figured all was normal and didn't even worry about not seeing him.
If your gestational sac is growing and still smaller than 25mm and there are no complications, take a deep breath. This pregnancy is still too early to diagnose as a blighted ovum. Everything may still be normal. Hang in there and leave a message. I'd love to hear from you. (((Hugs)))
Today I'd like to share Korin's story. You can find the original post here:
Korin's Story - Diagnosed Blighted ovum 5wks 6days - UPDATE!! MISDIAGNOSED!
At about six weeks, Korin had an ultrasound. Because they saw an empty gestational sac, the midwife told her she believed it to be a blighted ovum and wanted to check her hCG levels.
A comment from me about this: Most doctors will not check hCG levels once the gestational sac is seen. Your numbers could be high or low and be normal. They could rise, plateau or even fall and be normal. All hCG levels do with a diagnosis of suspected blighted ovum is to worry Mom unnecessarily.
Korin's hCG levels came back in the 20,000s which is perfectly normal but the midwife diagnosed a blighted ovum because there was nothing seen in the sac. Korin did not want a D&C and chose to wait.
Two weeks later, Korin saw the heart of her little one beating away.
I know I blog about this topic a lot but hCG numbers should NOT play a role in a blighted ovum diagnosis. I've talked to women who had numbers much higher who did not see their babies until later. The diagnosis of a blighted ovum should be based on the size of the gestational sac if the sac is growing. You'll want to see the sac grow to at least 25mm before a blighted ovum should even be suggested.
In fact, that reminds me of another recent story on the site. Rachel shared how her doctor felt her hCG numbers were too low and with no baby seen yet, she needed a D&C. Thankfully Rachel's husband demanded another ultrasound two hours before the procedure and, you guessed it, they found their baby. You can read her story here:
Rachel's Story - My Ob/Gyn Almost Murdered My Son
This is why I strongly believe a blighted ovum should NOT be even suggested before the gestational sac reaches at least 25mm. Had that doctor just said, "It's still too early, come back in a couple weeks," Rachel would not have been so upset. In fact, with my first pregnancy, most doctors would have likely suggested a blighted ovum like they did with my second pregnancy. When they couldn't see my baby, the just said that it was too early and to come back in a couple weeks. I was probably between eight to nine weeks when they found him. Because of how they approached it, I figured all was normal and didn't even worry about not seeing him.
If your gestational sac is growing and still smaller than 25mm and there are no complications, take a deep breath. This pregnancy is still too early to diagnose as a blighted ovum. Everything may still be normal. Hang in there and leave a message. I'd love to hear from you. (((Hugs)))
Saturday, March 28, 2015
High hCG and No Baby Seen? FORGET THE hCG! It's All About the Size of the Gestational Sac!
If you are being diagnosed with a blighted ovum just based on your hCG levels and no baby being seen, your doctor is wrong.
Let me repeat...
Your doctor is wrong!
If your doctor has not been telling you the size of your gestational sac, you need to ask.
Going to repeat again...
Blighted Ovum scare? Ask the size of your gestational sac at each appointment.
If this is a blighted ovum scare, you don't need ultrasounds every two to three days. This is self-defeating. It'll leave you worried. Gestational sacs need time to grow. They don't grow much in two to three days. If your pregnancy is indeed viable, your baby needs time to grow and be seen. Give it a week.
You can wait longer but, really, the waiting is torture, a week is fine. Please, keep in mind, I had to go almost a month before finding a baby in my gestational sac and the sac measured 28.5mm. At only 21.5 mm, it still looked empty.
I know you are worried but if there are no serious complications (i.e. threat of ectopic, infection, etc...) make sure your ultrasounds are scheduled one week apart.
Also, so important, once that gestational sac is seen, hCG levels do NOT need to be taken. They can rise, plateau or drop and this can still be a viable pregnancy. I have talked to women whose hCG levels were over 100,000 before they found their babies. I've talked to women whose hCG numbers seemed to plateau around 30,000 to 40,000 and then went on to find their babies.
So what should the size of the gestational sac be before a blighted ovum is suggested?
I love the UK's new guidelines. I oft repeat them because these guidelines would do away with the majority of misdiagnosed miscarriages.
The gestational sac should measure at least 25mm before a blighted ovum diagnosis is even suggested.
Want to know more about these guidelines? I blogged on this last year:
Misdiagnosed Miscarriage? The UK Has Changed their Guidelines. Your Doctor Needs to Take Note
If you are in a pregnancy forum here online, share this page! Yes, some women will miscarry but you may prevent somebody from ending their pregnancy while there still might be a viable pregnancy.
The take away from this blog post. If you have seen the gestational sac, stop focusing on the hCG levels. Focus on the growth of the gestational sac
- and -
just to throw another wrench into the works...
And, Even More on the Unreliability of Ultrasound Measurements During the First Trimester
Your ultrasound tech may get a different measurement than another ultrasound tech. For absolute certainty, if there are no complications, you may want to wait one week after the gestational sac reaches 25mm to verify the empty sac.
Yes, a blighted ovum diagnosis is one of the most miserable diagnoses you will ever receive. The waiting is torture but a number of women have waited it out and found their babies.
Let me repeat...
Your doctor is wrong!
If your doctor has not been telling you the size of your gestational sac, you need to ask.
Going to repeat again...
Blighted Ovum scare? Ask the size of your gestational sac at each appointment.
If this is a blighted ovum scare, you don't need ultrasounds every two to three days. This is self-defeating. It'll leave you worried. Gestational sacs need time to grow. They don't grow much in two to three days. If your pregnancy is indeed viable, your baby needs time to grow and be seen. Give it a week.
You can wait longer but, really, the waiting is torture, a week is fine. Please, keep in mind, I had to go almost a month before finding a baby in my gestational sac and the sac measured 28.5mm. At only 21.5 mm, it still looked empty.
I know you are worried but if there are no serious complications (i.e. threat of ectopic, infection, etc...) make sure your ultrasounds are scheduled one week apart.
Also, so important, once that gestational sac is seen, hCG levels do NOT need to be taken. They can rise, plateau or drop and this can still be a viable pregnancy. I have talked to women whose hCG levels were over 100,000 before they found their babies. I've talked to women whose hCG numbers seemed to plateau around 30,000 to 40,000 and then went on to find their babies.
So what should the size of the gestational sac be before a blighted ovum is suggested?
I love the UK's new guidelines. I oft repeat them because these guidelines would do away with the majority of misdiagnosed miscarriages.
The gestational sac should measure at least 25mm before a blighted ovum diagnosis is even suggested.
Want to know more about these guidelines? I blogged on this last year:
Misdiagnosed Miscarriage? The UK Has Changed their Guidelines. Your Doctor Needs to Take Note
If you are in a pregnancy forum here online, share this page! Yes, some women will miscarry but you may prevent somebody from ending their pregnancy while there still might be a viable pregnancy.
The take away from this blog post. If you have seen the gestational sac, stop focusing on the hCG levels. Focus on the growth of the gestational sac
- and -
just to throw another wrench into the works...
And, Even More on the Unreliability of Ultrasound Measurements During the First Trimester
Your ultrasound tech may get a different measurement than another ultrasound tech. For absolute certainty, if there are no complications, you may want to wait one week after the gestational sac reaches 25mm to verify the empty sac.
Yes, a blighted ovum diagnosis is one of the most miserable diagnoses you will ever receive. The waiting is torture but a number of women have waited it out and found their babies.
Saturday, March 21, 2015
After the Miscarriage was Misdiagnosed - One Mother's Letter to the Hospital and Their Response
Often when you find out that your diagnosed 'miscarriage' is actually a viable pregnancy, the shock and joy are overwhelming. Many women continue on with their pregnancies and these doctors continue to misdiagnose miscarriages.
Some women go on to write letters to their physicians and the hospitals or medical centers where they practice. If we want to prevent misdiagnosed miscarriages, I think this is a great idea.
Several years ago, Kerry shared with me her misdiagnosed story and asked me to share it on The Misdiagnosed Miscarriage site:
Later she emailed me to share that her baby boy had been born! So exciting. She also shared with me the letter she sent to the hospital as well as their response. I asked permission to share this letter/response and she gladly gave it. Hopefully this letter can help other women when they have been misdiagnosed.
Here is Kerry's e-mail to the hospital (I've blocked out any identifying dates and names blocked out for privacy reasons):
and I will share the hospital's response (again, I've blocked out any identifying names for privacy reasons):
We do know that dates are often one to two weeks of with a tilted uterus and, thankfully, more and more doctors seem to be recognizing this as well. In fact, I excitedly blogged this last year when I found the American Pregnancy Association was finally acknowledging the link between the retroverted uterus and 'hidden' babies. Here is that post:
Also, in reference to the letter, I also believe miracles happen but in the case of blighted ova being misdiagnosed, really, it's not so much a miracle when the baby is found as much as it is a patient doctor who waits until a growing gestational sac is at least 25mm before even suggesting a blighted ovum.
Some women go on to write letters to their physicians and the hospitals or medical centers where they practice. If we want to prevent misdiagnosed miscarriages, I think this is a great idea.
Several years ago, Kerry shared with me her misdiagnosed story and asked me to share it on The Misdiagnosed Miscarriage site:
Later she emailed me to share that her baby boy had been born! So exciting. She also shared with me the letter she sent to the hospital as well as their response. I asked permission to share this letter/response and she gladly gave it. Hopefully this letter can help other women when they have been misdiagnosed.
Here is Kerry's e-mail to the hospital (I've blocked out any identifying dates and names blocked out for privacy reasons):
Hi there,If you could please pass this on to the manager of your obstetric ultrasound department it would be greatly appreciated.This email is regarding an early pregnancy ultrasound that I had performed at your xxxxxx department on xx xxx xxxx, ref: xxxxxx (see attached scanned report)Basically I was told that my ultrasound appearance at 6 weeks 5 days, was consistent with a blighted ovum but I’m now happily 17 weeks pregnant! I understand that the doctor’s report (Dr xxxxx xxxxxx) needed to simply describe what the ultrasound found, however, I think they should have quantified their conclusion with a statement that these early scans can sometimes be wrong and that further monitoring is advised (given these early assessments have been wrong in the past and that there are some factors that can influence the image). For example, I had a tilted (retroverted) uterus which I wasn’t aware of until a later scan (and the lady performing my initial scan at xxxxxx didn’t notify me of this and I feel she should have, given this can interfere with the image and is quite a common occurrence especially in second pregnancies).After doing some research on blighted ova, I found out that my story can be a rather common occurrence – they receive a few cases each month apparently, on the following website: www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com/mycommunity In conclusion, I just wanted to write this email in the hope that future blighted ovum ultrasound reports may hopefully have a quantitative/explanatory note at the bottom of them, outlining that these early scans can sometimes be incorrect and for the patient to follow up with later scans if they want to. This is in the hope that people don’t rush out to have a curette performed (like I was intending to do) when they may indeed still be pregnant.Thank you for your time.Regards, Kerry
and I will share the hospital's response (again, I've blocked out any identifying names for privacy reasons):
(you may click on the image of the letter for easier reading)
We do know that dates are often one to two weeks of with a tilted uterus and, thankfully, more and more doctors seem to be recognizing this as well. In fact, I excitedly blogged this last year when I found the American Pregnancy Association was finally acknowledging the link between the retroverted uterus and 'hidden' babies. Here is that post:
Also, in reference to the letter, I also believe miracles happen but in the case of blighted ova being misdiagnosed, really, it's not so much a miracle when the baby is found as much as it is a patient doctor who waits until a growing gestational sac is at least 25mm before even suggesting a blighted ovum.
Thursday, March 19, 2015
When Ultrasound Techs "Misdiagnose" Your Baby's Gender
I was just watching a sweet video in which family was shocked to find out the new baby was a boy. They were shocked because they had been told during an ultrasound that they should expect their second daughter.
Same thing happened to us only we were told we were having our second son. Indeed my own daughter (yes, the one who was also the 'blighted ovum') was determined to be our son at our second trimester ultrasound.
My husband and I already had a son and decided we just wanted to be surprised at the next birth. We told the doctor this a number of times and the ultrasound tech. This was our longer second-trimester ultrasound. She took all sorts of measurements but made sure not to refer to the baby's gender. After awhile, another ultrasound tech came in to take her place. They spoke for awhile. As the new tech took over scanning, I was just getting ready to make sure she knew we didn't want to know the gender when she announced excitedly that it was a boy. Sigh...she saw our disappointment. Not because the baby was a boy but because we had wanted to be surprised. She apologized profusely. Toward the end of the ultrasound, she said let me take one more look. She took a couple minutes and told us "Not to count our chickens before they were hatched," but she'd already announced our 'son' and this was to be our last ultrasound.
And, so we prepared for our baby boy. Thankfully, I still had a lot from my son so I didn't spend too much. I did buy a new stroller and carseat, both in light green. I also bought a bouncy seat in blue but that was about it.
So, my water broke and long crazy story short but we get my husband home from another state before they take me in for my C-section. With my husband standing there holding my hand, they pull out our baby and announce, "It's a girl!"
Whoa, total shock! I had two doctors in there and I remember I just kept asking, "Are you sure he's a girl?" They'd laugh and assure me *she* was a girl. Hubby even assured me the baby was a girl but he just looked like he was in shock so I didn't put too much stock in his assessment. Finally, they had her cleaned up and brought her over. Yep, noticeable lack of body parts. She was a girl!
So amazing! It took me a month or so of changing diapers before it really sunk in I think. I had just gone about four or five months believing she was a boy.
And, that girl is all girl. She's my dancer and my musician. She loves life to the fullest and she has made our world a brighter place.
So, yes, even gender can be 'misdiagnosed' during pregnancy :)
Same thing happened to us only we were told we were having our second son. Indeed my own daughter (yes, the one who was also the 'blighted ovum') was determined to be our son at our second trimester ultrasound.
My husband and I already had a son and decided we just wanted to be surprised at the next birth. We told the doctor this a number of times and the ultrasound tech. This was our longer second-trimester ultrasound. She took all sorts of measurements but made sure not to refer to the baby's gender. After awhile, another ultrasound tech came in to take her place. They spoke for awhile. As the new tech took over scanning, I was just getting ready to make sure she knew we didn't want to know the gender when she announced excitedly that it was a boy. Sigh...she saw our disappointment. Not because the baby was a boy but because we had wanted to be surprised. She apologized profusely. Toward the end of the ultrasound, she said let me take one more look. She took a couple minutes and told us "Not to count our chickens before they were hatched," but she'd already announced our 'son' and this was to be our last ultrasound.
And, so we prepared for our baby boy. Thankfully, I still had a lot from my son so I didn't spend too much. I did buy a new stroller and carseat, both in light green. I also bought a bouncy seat in blue but that was about it.
So, my water broke and long crazy story short but we get my husband home from another state before they take me in for my C-section. With my husband standing there holding my hand, they pull out our baby and announce, "It's a girl!"
Whoa, total shock! I had two doctors in there and I remember I just kept asking, "Are you sure he's a girl?" They'd laugh and assure me *she* was a girl. Hubby even assured me the baby was a girl but he just looked like he was in shock so I didn't put too much stock in his assessment. Finally, they had her cleaned up and brought her over. Yep, noticeable lack of body parts. She was a girl!
So amazing! It took me a month or so of changing diapers before it really sunk in I think. I had just gone about four or five months believing she was a boy.
And, that girl is all girl. She's my dancer and my musician. She loves life to the fullest and she has made our world a brighter place.
So, yes, even gender can be 'misdiagnosed' during pregnancy :)
My Baby Girl
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